"I Won't Ever Have Sex With You"

For the past week or so I've been spending time with a female friend. She actually could not be better suited for me, but until last night I never really considered the possibility of it going anywhere. Whenever I first meet a girl and I'm sober, I actually really enjoying talking to her. I enjoy getting to know someone and the conversations that evolve during the process. The conversations allow me to see if she is a real person or if she is only going to serve for the purpose of sexual release.

Last night I was over her place and we were studying. Our relationship thus far has been purely amiable, but last night she made a comment that made me realize it might be taking an unexpected turn.

I left her place late last night and we resumed talking when I arrived home. My game was on and I had been untouchable all night. It's the oldest cliche, but just being yourself works the best, well when you're awesome like me at least. The words were flowing out of me and I was in my zone. There was nothing she could do to slow down this train and in an instant she became a deer in the headlights and so we will call her Bambi.

Guys pick up girls in various ways. We pick them up with our looks, charm, wallet, celebrity status, humor. Not me. I pick up girls with my words. By talking to me girls feel instantly comfortable. If you are one of my victims then you know what I am talking about. I can sit and talk and the conversation flows endlessly, get a little liquor in me and I'm even sharper. It's not a trick however, it is genuine. I engage in conversation. I find a way for it to flow to a place which I consider my comfort zone and before you know it you are telling me your deepest darkest secrets you never told anyone, let alone someone you hardly know. (You have probably been with someone before who has done the exact same thing to you.)

Is it wrong? No.
Why? Because I'm not opening you up and allowing you to be vulnerable to expose and use you. I do it because I am genuinely interested what you have to say. Once I can direct the conversation into sexual experiences and preferences, women become intrigued and enamored. They don't even realize how the conversation went from law exams to sexual positions and partners.

Last night after arriving home Bambi said to me, "its funny...certain guys have a gift with conversation....and they can really make you tell them all your deepest darkest secrets...well not make you but just make it easy to offer."

What is so riveting about Bambi mentioning this, is that she was well aware of what was occurring and how she was telling me everything about herself, but it didn't stop her. She was too caught up in the conversation to slow down.

Her next comment to me was, "we can never have sex, you know far too much about me now. I won't ever have sex with you."

Now this rather seemingly harmless conversation was never about us having sex, nor did I ever proposition her or imply I was interested. However, being a man, I'm not going to turn down sex from a very attractive female either.

Unfortunately for her, by telling me she will never have sex with me she folded her hand. I knew exactly the cards she had been dealt and bluffing wouldn't take her any farther. I now had the upper hand and knew we would absolutely have sex the next time I saw her. Now some of you may be confused so I will slow down and explain.

Whenever a girl tells you she will not have sex with you, she has every intention to sleep with you, unless you are a stalker, rapist, molester, etc.

The reason a girl says she won't sleep with you is simple and obvious, it is a defense mechanism. Bambi may not realize she was the one who brought up sex entirely on her own, but by bringing it up I now knew the seed was planted in her head. The only difference is now she seems to think I actually believe we won't ever have sex and so I let her think this. The reason she told me that we won't be having sex is because it allows her to gather enough self respect that she doesn't feel like she made herself too easy for me. This way she can pretend I still have to work for it.

The conversation had flowed exactly where I wanted it to and when talking about sex, an extremely personal topic girls become excited. When the conversation began I honestly was not thinking about having sex with her, but as I stated in the beginning, I'm a guy and when a smoking girl is offering, I'm not one to shy away. While I didn't intend for the conversation to go as far as it went, I pushed down on the accelerator and let it ride, when right in front of my eyes there it was, a deer in the headlights.

In a way many of you may feel that my approach where girls open up to me is cheating, corner cutting or just downright wrong. Well it's not. Some guys simply get laid for looks or money. Is it so wrong to use my god given abilities? If your greatest talent was playing an instrument, would you not play at the highest level you could?

My greatest talent is my words and my pen. I never said I don't like the women, I never said I couldn't see a future with them, all I do is use the skills I have to reach the highest level. Yes I get women to tell me their deepest darkest secrets and then the rest can develop from there.

I use the cards I've been dealt and that's what life is all about, putting your best foot forward.